French philosopher discusses modern love
Yann Dell’Aglio is an Italian-French philosopher who puts a lot of thought into the meaning of love, especially love in the modern age. Yann has written 2 books, including one called I love you: Is love a has been?
In a popular TED talk, Yann discusses the trend in modern times to base one’s self-worth on the approval of other people. He explains that this leads to an unhealthy pattern in which people buy more material things and pursue success in life in order to impress others.
Yann’s solution is for individuals to feel inherently worthy of love. If you believe in your own self-worth, you will be less dependent on the approval of others. When you let go trying to earn the approval of others with an insincere performance you free others around you to be OK with themselves too. Everybody is happier, and real love is easier to find.
“If you change yourself to impress someone else, you can’t find real love because you’re being fake,” said TFP counselor Kim.
Check out the TED talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/yann_dall_aglio_love_you_re_doing_it_wrong?language=en