New Year’s relationship resolutions
When you review the goals you’ve set for this new year, consider adding some relationship resolutions to your list. Take the time to consider your relationship patterns in the past year, whether you are single, dating or in a long-term relationship. In what areas would you like to grow this year? Some examples might include improving your communication patterns, setting clearer boundaries with others in your life, or spending more time investing in your life outside of your long-term relationship.
In blog posts this past year, we have featured articles with lots of advice about improving and maintaining healthy relationships. You could also explore those posts to see what information might be most useful in your life.
Of course, people often lose enthusiasm for their new year’s goals a few months after the year has begun. One way to improve the chances that you will meet your goals is to try an exercise called mental contrasting. Mental contrasting is an alternative to positive thinking, which studies suggest has mixed results. With mental contrasting, you visualize yourself achieving your goal. However, then you write down challenges you might face on the way to achieving your goal. Finally, you visualize yourself achieving your goal again. Researchers found that participants who brainstormed realistic challenges to achieving their goal were more likely to actually achieve their goal than participants who merely imagined positive future successes.
For more about mental contrasting, check out this New York Times article.
Have a happy New Year!
-The TFP team
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