Questions to explore before marriage
Fearing to disrupt the romance and mystery in a relationship, many couples make long-term commitments such as marriage without fully exploring important relationship topics. The New York Times compiled advice from various relationship experts regarding which topics to make sure you discuss with your partner before that major commitment. Open communication about these difficult topics will help reduce the likelihood of conflict later in the relationship.
One topic is whether or not each person would like to have children, and how they will manage childcare duties. Will both partners help with childcare or will one partner take on more childcaring responsibilities than the other?
Another is how conflict was handled in each partner’s family of origin. Exploring family of origin patterns can help both partners gain awareness regarding their own habits. Partners can decide how they want to resolve conflicts in their own relationship.
Yet another topic to explore is religious beliefs and how holidays will be spent. Beyond this, if the couple decides to have children, they should decide in advance how spiritual education will be handled.
More discussions to have with your partner include money spending habits, how much alone time each member of the couple needs, and expectations for how the relationship will look in ten years.
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