TFP counselors attend healthy relationship conference
On May 3, the TFP counselor team flew to Oakland, CA to attend a conference about couples counseling and healthy relationships. Speakers at the conference included luminaries in the field like Esther Perel, renowned couples therapist, and Helen Fisher, anthropologist and bestselling author.
TFP counselors learned many new and useful tools for working with couples and individuals, as well as new information about relationships today.
Here are a few things counselors learned on the trip.
- Affairs affect 90% of society, either as a person directly involved in the relationship that suffered the affair, or a family member or friend associated with the couple.
- We put increased stress and strain on our relationships by expecting to get everything we need from our partner when societies used to be set up to have a village around us in addition to assist in meeting our social, physical, & emotional needs.
- We need to maintain our relationships in our “village” to help us be complete and bring a healthier self into relationships.
- Some people’s receptors are naturally more sensitive to dopamine. These people tend to be “explorers.” Other people are naturally more sensitive to serotonin- they tend to have traits of stability, dependability and liking to follow the rules.
- Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy is a refreshing approach to working with difficult male clients.
- When counseling a couple, you should meet them where they are and not become the enforcer of marriage or divorce.
- There are three phases of post affair therapy: crisis phase, insight phase and vision phase.
- It’s important it is for the future of marriage and relationships to rethink our beliefs around infidelity.